solutions

How to handle bullying?

There are many solutions to prevent and handle physical bullying. 

We all know that the main solution to physical bullying is to consult an adult (go figure), but you may ask yourself: "Are there any other paths that I can take?". Of course there are. 

For example, a way to stop physical bullying is to react as little possible to your bully, thus the bully, when seeing that he/she doesn't affect you at all, he/she shall then see no point in continuing their actions. This way might not always be effective, but is worth a try. 

Another way to get a bully off your back is to always stay with a friend, or a group of friends. No bully wants to get into a situation in which there are many against him/her alone. 

For those who are getting bullied and can’t seem to find a person to stick around with, staying around an adult or a teacher is also a good way to get him/her off your back; no adult would just turn their back to a child getting hurt. 

If you are someone who has witnessed or knows about somebody getting bullied, do the right thing and consult an adult, DO NOT get yourself involved directly. Contrary from what other people say, we have learned that getting yourself involved physically could bring you trouble that you don't want. 

Another solution is to educate children starting at a young age, that bullying is bad and that it can ruin their life. This solution can prevent future bullies and future bullying victims, no one wants’ to know that their child is a bully or is getting bullied. 

Once a person has been bullied, they are scarred with these terrible memories that may or may not haunt them for the rest of their lives. Seeking therapy, in my opinion, is the best way to get rid a person of these horrid thoughts. You should note that bullying has no age limit, neither does seeking counselling nor any other physical bullying solution.

Here is one of our favorite YouTube channels 

(don't forget only use self- defence as a last resort!) :

Shane Fazen is a former professional boxer who injured his hand and was then forced to retire. He now makes self defense videos on YouTube. He also supports LGBT, an anti-bullying charity.  He gives detailed videos on how to mentally prepare yourself for a fight. This is very helpful when someone is trying to face a bully.

advice

Here is some advice

To all of you victims out there listen up! We're here to give you some advice on how to deal with physical bullies. So first of all... it's not only the bullies fault! You're also responsible, believe it or not. The unwillingness to fight back is a key factor. So stand up to the bully. The next time he walks up to you, stick your chest out, face him head on and tell him/her that you don't like it. Give them a warning. If they don't stop, tell an adult first. Try not to resort to violence, because adults will often solve the problem without any casualties. 

Until the age of eleven, nine out of ten bullies will stop, in fear of ''getting into trouble''. But here's an interesting fact: Did you know, that in Canada, starting at the age of 12 a person can be pursued in court and receive a criminal record? In the UK, the age is even younger.

In the UK, that means the court can hold you responsible at the age of 10 for any criminal act (vandalism, robbery,  physical assault, etc.). So if your bully is ten or older (depending on where you are) file a complaint. The proof is visible! If you need more proof, gather a few witnesses willing to help you. After receiving a criminal record the bully will stop.

If not, you might have to start defending yourself from further attacks that might endanger your life. Reach out to law to help you once again, BUT NEVER EVER RESORT TO VIOLENCE UNLESS IT IS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY.  

I know this might sound cliche, but don't ever forget:

Suicide is never an option.

Life will get better, we can almost guaranty it. 

Also suicide is an extremely selfish act... you might be relieving yourself from the pain now..., but remember there are people who love you. Basically you're getting rid of your pain, but also causing pain to others.

So don't ever think of suicide as an option.

  

consequences

Consequences of Bullying

There are some extremely serious consequences that can occur during a physical bully and his victim.

The aggressor has a few ways of intimidating the victim: 

• Punching
• Kicking
• Spitting
• Happy slapping
• Sexual assault 
• Hiding and/or destroying possessions, etc.

The consequences for the victim range from minor injuries to severe injuries and in the worst case scenario, death.

In addition to theses injuries, the victim can sustain mental damage. Over time, according to studies, the victim have more anxiety, sadness, sleep difficulties, low self-esteem, headaches and stomach pain.

The bully, most likely in the future, will get involved in harmful activities such as street fights. It is shown that most bullies will have a tendency to skip school, carry a weapon and get involved with drugs and alcohol. By the age of 24, 60% of bullies will have been convicted of at least one crime.

As for the witnesses, while watching the action happening, they suffer from frustration, fear, low self-esteem and a loss of control. In most cases, they will feel an immense amount of guilt because they cannot ''save'' the victim.


Here is a video of a girl that regrets not helping victims of bullying and her point of view on the subject. Although, this does not apply to physical bullying, but rather social bullying the consequences on the witness is very similar. 

Effect

What emotions occur during physical bullying?

Please note that these effects do not specifically target physical bullying, but can also target other types of bullying like social and verbal bullying.

The Victim:

-The victim will often times feel discouraged and down, not having the will to go on in life. 

-They will feel scared and threatened by the bully, because they feel inferior.

-Often times he/she would even suffer emotional jumps ( ex: mad to sad).

The Bully:

The bully will often times find the need to bully others in order to find a place in a group (in a class, at work, in society, etc.) because they feel insecure. Therefore they want to maintain control over others.

Relatives:

Relatives (parents, wives, husbands, etc.) will often times get very worried. Mainly, because they will frequently see their loved ones come home with numerous injuries and/or mental problems.

Here is a video that we found on YouTube of somebody that is bullied daily. He explains the effects of the bullying and how he feels personally.

These are the type of incidents that happen during bullying... so please help spread bullying awareness. 

Definition

What is physical bullying?

Physical bullying is an act or a series of acts committed by a bully aiming to injure, embarrass, to gain power over others or sexually harass another person on a number of occasions.

Generally, bullying implies a imbalance of power between the aggressor and his victim.  

About Us

About Us

We are a group of four students who want to spread the news about the dangers of physical bullying and we want to prevent them from happening. 

We think that physical bullying can have some of the most severe consequences that can happen to a victim. Before that happens we wish to increase your knowledge on the subject.




Thank you for taking the time to read this and we hope you can help us spread the news.